tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post3761390576540888658..comments2023-08-08T06:58:37.129-06:00Comments on Read Bree: The blog post I almost didn't publish . . .Bree Biesinger Despainhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08292364585512793833noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-40603411949013460672011-09-09T01:57:49.359-06:002011-09-09T01:57:49.359-06:00*Golf Clap with a Standing O!*
Amen Girlfriend!
...*Golf Clap with a Standing O!*<br /><br />Amen Girlfriend!<br /><br />P.S I TOTALLY heard Jeffery Donovan giving this as a monologue! It was sublime! LOLMandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03860402931006964907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-81269707571768555372011-08-24T15:57:51.731-06:002011-08-24T15:57:51.731-06:00I love, love, love this post! Thank you for sharin...I love, love, love this post! Thank you for sharing. I especially loved (could I use this word more? Yes. Yes, I can.) the part about stay-at-home moms. <br /><br />My 18-month-old is not in day care. My husband tries very hard to help out at home, even though he works full time, because he knows that my writing is important. Some of the people he works with do not get that. They've asked him why he can't cover for them or go on extended trips for work or switch his schedule all over the place because, after all, his wife is "just" a stay-at-home mom, so why on Earth does he have to help out? Isn't that my job? Grrr. <br /><br />There's this impression that writing is something that happens because you have way too much free time and need to think of some way to fill it. As if one day as I was in the middle of yet another diaper change I thought, <i>I know! I'll write a novel! Perfect! Then I won't be bored!</i> Nope. Filling my time isn't the problem. There's always stuff to do. I write because I want to, because I'm driven to and, like you, I wrote long, long before I had my daughter. I'm just a lot more productive now because I have to MAKE time to do it, and I therefore treasure that time more.Caryn Caldwellhttp://www.caryncaldwell.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-62450952692210438392011-08-23T12:47:51.093-06:002011-08-23T12:47:51.093-06:00Jonathan- It was good see you again! And this post...Jonathan- It was good see you again! And this post is in no way a reference to you. I can always appreciate a good sense of humor. It's just intentional meanness couched in humor that irks me. You are a funny but also nice guy.Bree Biesinger Despainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08292364585512793833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-45935127437476613192011-08-23T12:20:13.414-06:002011-08-23T12:20:13.414-06:00Bree,
This is Matt's friend, Jonathan. I just ...Bree,<br />This is Matt's friend, Jonathan. I just wanted to say thanks for letting me hang for a bit with the cool kids in LA. It was a pleasure.<br /><br />Also, I hope number 4 isn't related to something I said then. When I went back to my room, I felt pretty bad for a bit of wit went wrong. If this offended, I'm sorry. If not, :)<br /><br />Either way, great post. These are all too common and easy traps to fall into.Jonathan Snoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-45506622577220484822011-08-21T19:54:30.287-06:002011-08-21T19:54:30.287-06:00FAB post. I hear you on ALL of this.
Love me som...FAB post. I hear you on ALL of this. <br /><br />Love me some love triangles. Love me some Vamp Diaries (*cough*Damon*). Love me some Dark Divine ;)Kristin Raehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14169967050454852124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-79125920521146098782011-08-20T11:06:18.957-06:002011-08-20T11:06:18.957-06:00PreachPreachLindsey Leavitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10638744227355752506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-17897884612639518982011-08-20T04:25:56.050-06:002011-08-20T04:25:56.050-06:00I hate romance--the genre, not romance itself. Ha...I hate romance--the genre, not romance itself. Hate, hate, hate it. I have since childhood. I've hated it even more since publishers have made a mess of the dividing line (imaginary as it is) between urban fantasy and paranormal romance. And I've been really, really vocal about it....<br /><br />UNTIL: 1, I realized I sounded a lot like the lit-genre snobs that looked down their noises at sci-fi/fantasy, and 2, as a would-be-novelist I met a lot of romance writers who go through the same things processes, hopes, and fears as other writers. I learned to respect them even if their genre isn't to my taste. Hopefully whoever set you off will get the same lesson. ;)Angela Mageehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15025716502393219570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-5093005517130593142011-08-19T19:54:48.564-06:002011-08-19T19:54:48.564-06:00Bree - Two words -- thank you.Bree - Two words -- thank you.Sophiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01906613969439987030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-25470532162380109802011-08-19T19:29:51.299-06:002011-08-19T19:29:51.299-06:00Love your post, Bree.
"Oh, wait a sec . . . ...Love your post, Bree.<br /><br />"Oh, wait a sec . . . I'm writing an "honest" post in which I'm whining about things that must go. I hope that doesn't fall into this category. Does it? Oh crap . . . "<br /><br />This made me smile because I've experienced this with my kids. I'd whine and complain about how much they were whining and complaining. Sometimes these things need to be said--by us--just to get them off our chests so we can move on.Donna K. Weaverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15763832177263927311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-19162278058261412822011-08-19T19:19:04.736-06:002011-08-19T19:19:04.736-06:00Fantastic post, Bree! I don't feel profound en...Fantastic post, Bree! I don't feel profound enough too say anything to really add to your vent. However, I want to tell you that I whole-heartedly agree with everything you said.Jenni Elysehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403700912436098391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-26248443204229183612011-08-19T19:08:21.279-06:002011-08-19T19:08:21.279-06:00First, I could win a bar fight without opening my ...First, I could win a bar fight without opening my mouth. My being nuts is no secret, which brings me to...<br /><br />Second, were you on mglitchat last night? When I couldn't hold my tongue anymore and said they were all nuts? Even though I'm an authority, I was wrong to share that expertise. <br /><br />Third, nuts and flowers. It's really all I know. I'll stop pretending otherwise.<br /><br />I suppose the only thing I'm not guilty of is knocking the work of others. I might call them on their tweets, but I'd never knock someone's writing.<br /><br />My bad, but not that bad.L.L. Muirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05479212854384361721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-79771904901396790602011-08-19T18:49:44.584-06:002011-08-19T18:49:44.584-06:00This is an EXCELLENT post. Thank you for writing i...This is an EXCELLENT post. Thank you for writing it! I'm also a new author and I hope I don't develop any of these bad habits that you listed. It really bothers me to read tweets or blog posts where authors blast others. We should all be on the same side. Right? :)<br /><br />-MelissaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06582771248232087353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-85142359861340890692011-08-19T18:44:22.501-06:002011-08-19T18:44:22.501-06:00I'm glad you said this. I'm working on Boo...I'm glad you said this. I'm working on Book 4 and I still feel like a total backwards dorkahol sundae. The genre take-downs and smack talk make me self conscious and miserable and frankly, I end up hiding from the Internet for long periods of time. Lonely is better than feeling like a loser who's doing it wrong.<br /><br />And in that vein, my word is belpier. I think verification likes Aprilynne better.Saundra Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15740791875525373102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-9040719681490828272011-08-19T18:42:00.707-06:002011-08-19T18:42:00.707-06:00I couldn't agree more!!I couldn't agree more!!Mundie Momshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01584680114233456793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-21105273444896343572011-08-19T12:31:44.310-06:002011-08-19T12:31:44.310-06:00Funniest part of this post: the idea that stay-at-...Funniest part of this post: the idea that stay-at-home moms are bored. That's just, well hahahaha! Let me catch my breath. I think writers by nature tend to be the type that are never bored. We have all these voices in our head to keep us company, afterall. ;) Great post!Rachel+Cohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01932780419139715504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-91626183342336615522011-08-19T12:18:43.375-06:002011-08-19T12:18:43.375-06:00I appreciate all of your comments so much!
Katie-...I appreciate all of your comments so much!<br /><br />Katie- I've been doing the same thing with twitter lately. Even though I do love to tweet!<br /><br />Sue- I'll have to check out that blog post.<br /><br />Emily- I always try to remember that I've been in the same shoes as every aspiring writer out there. You're right, we're all just in different places on the same path.Bree Biesinger Despainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08292364585512793833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-83456682726818795902011-08-19T11:46:09.321-06:002011-08-19T11:46:09.321-06:00Well said, Bree. This kind of thing bothers me so ...Well said, Bree. This kind of thing bothers me so much that I have become a defender of Twilight and Stephanie Meyer, even if she is not my favorite. Enough with the hate! Also, ditto on the stay-at-home Mom thing.Alyoshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08106776863523704879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-2600708338918650852011-08-19T11:07:01.504-06:002011-08-19T11:07:01.504-06:00Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you. I, being an a...Oh, thank you, thank you, thank you. I, being an aspiring writer, have often wondered if this is just the way it is supposed to be. I've even been extremely discouraged by being around other authors who seem to feel that they belong to a higher plane than I do. They were in my shoes not too long ago and yet now they know EVERYTHING. I think it comes back to the old playground phenomenon that children who feel insecure (no matter their age) tend to belittle others to try to make themselves seem better.<br /><br />I've also been dismayed to read the new, first release by one such individual (who has snubbed me significantly, repeatedly) and discovered that it was ineffable twaddle! I hope that isn't me mocking something because I think I'm better. I really just thought it was very poorly written, pretty much from beginning to end. <br /><br />Enough dissing on "those" people. :-)<br />What I AM grateful for are people like you and a few other wonderful ones that I could name who have accepted me kindly into the ranks of professional writer, though I haven't sold my first book yet. <br /><br />I appreciate the understanding that we are all on the same path, just in different places. <br /><br />For the record - we girls (at least lots of us) LOVES us a love triangle. Mmmm, hmmm!<br /><br />So, amen and amen.<br /><br />Oh, and Aprilynne, my word verification is "Clouts." What do you think of that?Emily Clawsonhttp://www.emilygrayclawson.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-85925875650448646772011-08-19T11:01:45.917-06:002011-08-19T11:01:45.917-06:00LOL - It must be something in the air. I'm pos...LOL - It must be something in the air. I'm posting a blog entry today on Author Talks versus Workshops because of the bad things I've seen authors do at conferences. But, I'm only showing positive examples of what we want to see. www.susanuhlig.comSue Fordhttp://www.susanuhlig.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-56877371262271257092011-08-19T11:00:32.439-06:002011-08-19T11:00:32.439-06:00Amen! I am just tired in general of this general u...Amen! I am just tired in general of this general up-puffery of authors. The rules for published authors are the same as the rules for common decency everywhere: if you don't have anything nice to say, try to refrain from saying anything. And for heavens sake, we're not rocket scientists or pop stars, so the high horses should stay in their giant stables. <br /><br />I'm on my third book, too, and when I go back and read my "writing advice" blog posts, I'm basically mortified. I know now how much I don't know.<br /><br />I confess it puts me into a funk. Lately I log onto Twitter and end up rolling my eyes and logging off... and it's never the readers who make me feel that way.Katie Alenderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15693819955523038560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-8561156506245900032011-08-19T10:45:39.925-06:002011-08-19T10:45:39.925-06:00Bree, you're advocating against prideful know-...Bree, you're advocating against prideful know-it-alls who diss other books... while humbly acknowledging that you, yourself, know very little and that even books you don't like have value.<br /><br />That be the opposite of hypocracy.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09413777557796110450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-17371489045637039082011-08-19T10:45:38.748-06:002011-08-19T10:45:38.748-06:00Oh Bree, just when I think I couldn't love you...Oh Bree, just when I think I couldn't love you more you go and do this...<br /><br />And honestly, you probably have better advice on how to work towards becoming a published author than Meg Cabot...because let's face it, she is in a very exclusive author bubble. <br /><br />I FREAKING ADORE LOVE TRIANGLES BY THE WAY, AND IF YOU STOP USING THEM AS A CRUTCH THEN I WON'T READ ANYMORE OF YOUR BOOKS! ;) :) ;)Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15527609789172868461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-29149721568159574852011-08-19T10:28:17.802-06:002011-08-19T10:28:17.802-06:00Amen, writer-sister. One little addition: non-writ...Amen, writer-sister. One little addition: non-writers who go for blood. Hey, it's hard work being a writer. We understand not everyone will like our book, and you have personal prefs of POV, genre, etc. No need to go homicidal on us personally. Say what doesn't work for you, what you think we could have done better, what you did like, and rate it.Author on the Loosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13371105720422860639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-61982955823832285642011-08-19T10:10:51.745-06:002011-08-19T10:10:51.745-06:00I agree totally. I'm not an author, just a rea...I agree totally. I'm not an author, just a reader, and I've noticed a lot of this cutesy "hey guys, i'm so funny, look how i just speared the YA genre like the stupid, predictable fish it is. damn i'm amazing!"<br />It is SUCH a turnoff. I was all set to read one author's book because I heard it was good, then she did this whole "I am the all knowing all seeing all lampooning goddess of YA criticism" blog post and I was like, nope, on to the next. There's so much good YA to read, why would i read the work of someone who seems to hate the genre, and ps, why is she writing it? She just hit the NY times bestseller list and has been pretty much insufferable since. Plus, she actually complained on twitter about another author who was criticizing YA, but writing it. I was just waiting for someone to dub her POT.Leahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-322645907247154812.post-18775767070905253992011-08-19T10:00:58.730-06:002011-08-19T10:00:58.730-06:00Brick- I wouldn't put it past you.Brick- I wouldn't put it past you.Bree Biesinger Despainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08292364585512793833noreply@blogger.com